Hello, I’m so glad you’re here. I hope you will take a few minutes to let me share a little of who I am and why I am so devoted to caring about and trying to help anyone who is between jobs.
I’ll never forget the moment I was unexpectedly laid off the first time as a secretary in October 1994. I was a single mom of a young daughter at the time, and had no college degree or formal training whatsoever. But I could type, file and answer the phone!
A beautiful 20-something female engineer came over when she heard the news, saying, “Mary, who knows, this may be the best thing that ever happened to you.” My internal reactions were anything but positive – that is NOT what I wanted to hear, especially from someone beautiful, younger, single, making considerably more money than me and with no responsibilities.
But … she was right. At the end of this first layoff, not only did I receive the career change of my dreams, I did so in spite of my limitations. When you place God in charge of your life, and you seek to know and obey Him, some wonderfully surprising things can happen. I came to learn and believe His promise to me that He had a good plan for my life, one that would prosper and not harm me, one that would give me a hope and a future. But … I had to trust, follow and obey Him. So, I did.
Imagine how I felt eight years later, when I was laid off again and yes, still a single mom. My initial reaction to my boss was, “Oh, that’s OK. It only means that God has something better for me to do.” Little did I know what that would mean.
It should come as no surprise that I began to ask questions of God shortly after I was laid off again. HELP for the LAID OFF was His answer to my question.
During this second two-year layoff, God laid some additional very difficult experiences at my feet as a way to test my faith and trust in Him, even further. My friends would often say, “Mary, I cannot handle another crisis in your life. What ELSE can go wrong?!”
My friend, I know what it feels like to be frightened, hopeless, exhausted on every level and humiliated from having to ask for help, over and over again. I know how hard it is, worrying about your children and how this layoff is affecting them, heartbroken that you’re unable to give them everything they want or you think they need.
I know how emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually draining it is to keep smiling and always have the ‘happy tone’ in your voice when answering the phone and instead of an interview or job offer, it’s someone asking, “Have you had any luck yet?”
I know what it’s like to lose sleep, cry uncontrollably and begin to imagine all kinds of wrong things. I know what it’s like to have $1.31 in your checking account for days at a time. And, I remember how it felt to be told, i.e., ‘You’re not poor enough to qualify for financial aid’ when I finally humbled myself to ask for help.
Oh, yes, I also know what it’s like to feel forgotten when even loved ones stop calling, because they are either too busy trying to keep the jobs they have or they just don’t know what to say. It is with great sadness when I recall how difficult it was to have to ask for help from my family … AGAIN. I’ve learned many things through these layoffs.
Why am I stressing some things I know about being laid off? Because there’s nothing worse than going through a hard time and someone saying to you, often looking at you in the eye, even, and saying, “I know how you feel”, when you BOTH know they have no clue.
Whoever you are, I want so much for the opportunity to help you with all I have learned, and to reassure you that regardless of what your situation looks like or how you feel, there are ways to get through a layoff with joy, meaning and purpose. Will you ENJOY being laid off? Of course not. But there’s no reason to stay down in the pits of despair, either.
What better time to stop, rest, and take a personal inventory of your life? Why is this happening to you, and what are you supposed to do now? I know Who I asked these questions to, and I got my answers. So can you, you just have to ask the right Person.
No matter who you are, how long you have been laid off and no matter how dire your circumstances, please know that you’re not going to be hurting forever. There is a big, beautiful light at the end of your tunnel. I don’t hope it to be true – I know it to be true.
Please spend time looking around on my site to see what my ministry is all about. I know your time is valuable, so thank you again, for being here. It is an honor and a privilege to help you in any way I can.
Do not give up – LOOK up!